Love Wins Every Time!

Fellow Leaders, 

 

   Love unexpectedly.


   Youth workers love surprises—but too often our spouses end up with the predictable and stable part of our lives. While there’s nothing wrong with stability, it’s also a good idea to take the same creativity that helps you think up crazy games and invent an unexpected way to love your spouse. 

   This week, make it a goal to love your husband or wife in an unexpected, surprising way.
   Love your spouse in front of your students.
There’s nothing wrong with letting your students see that you love your husband or wife. But it’s important to remember that your students are watching your relationship; it might be the most important lesson you teach them all week.
   Love your spouse in front of your kids.
Same thing goes with your own children (if you’ve got them). They need to see you in love with each other, too. That doesn’t mean that everything in the home is perfect, but through the good, bad, and the ugly you share a loving commitment to each other and to Christ.
   Love your spouse when no one is watching.
A consistent loving relationship can’t only show up when people are watching. Make sure you love your spouse when you aren’t trying to be a role model to your teenager. Youth ministry takes a toll on marriages. Sadly we’ve seen it first-hand far too many times. One of the best ways to model healthy marriage within your ministry context is to do the hard work of building a healthy marriage behind the scenes.

  Loving our students – that is the other requirement for a good youth leader – first we love God, then our family, then our students.  That is a hard order to live by at times, especially when we see such a need around us.  Who is the student in your ministry that needs to feel love the most this week?  Take some time to spend with them to show them they are loved, especially during a week that they may feel left out, abandoned, or far from loved.
Love wins every time!

I Love each and every one of you, and am proud to be in this ministry along side of you. I'm always available to chat.  Just call  865-250-8499.

Pastor Rob.

Freedom!

 Independence Day.

There are so many freedoms to think about.  

So many freedoms that are being taken away.
What about the freedom to worship God?

Whether that be the freedom to bow your head and pray over your meal

at a restaurant with people all around, or walking into a store and hearing 

Christian music being played over the speakers, or to simply go to the church

of your choosing.  And what a choice!  You can't throw a stick here without 

hitting a church building!
As we celebrate this day of freedom, let's also celebrate
the freedom we have to worship God however we want, whenever we want,
and wherever we want.  There is truly alot to be thankful for.
I am thankful for the men and women in our military who have fought for
and continue to guard our freedom here in the United States.
I am even more thankful for the freedom we have to live for Jesus,
because He sacrificed his own life for that freedom.
Now, for us as Christians, every day is Independence Day! 

Luke 4:18-19  says:
"The Spirit of the Lord is on me,
because he has anointed me
to preach good news to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners
and recovery of sight for the blind,
to release the oppressed,
to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor."

Ephesians 3:12
In him [Christ] and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. 

Stay Strong!

TEENS STAND STRONG!

Sometimes we can doubt our faith, and finding just five minutes for God seems like impossible to do. 

 Sometimes devotions do not really seem like devotion, but homework. Have you ever wondered if God is really even there? Here's a few ways to keep your faith strong even when you feel a bit weak.

1. Remember that God is Always There And Will Never Leave You!

Even in the Darkest times, when you just don’t feel God cares, you need to remember that God is always there. He does not forget you. "True faith is developed even when you don’t feel God."

Deuteronomy 31:6 - " Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God."

2. Read a Devotional everyday!

This is really important to maintaining your faith. A daily devotional will keep you in God's Word and make  your prayer life. It will also keep you closer to God even when you are struggling in your faith.

Philippians 2:12-13 – “What I'm getting at, friends, is that you should simply keep on doing what you've done from the beginning. When I was living among you, you lived in responsive obedience. Now that I'm separated from you, keep it up. Better yet, redouble your efforts. Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God's energy, an energy deep within you, God himself willing and working at what will give him the most pleasure. ”

3. Do Something!

Many people become apathetic over time, because they do not feel connected to a church body. Some churches do not offer ways to connect. Yet, there are a lot of activities on campuses and in the community. You can even look into other ministries. The more connected you are to the body of Christ, the more likely it is that you will maintain your faith.

Romans 12:5 – “so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.”

4. Talk to Someone!

If you feel separated from God, talk to your youth leader, a pastor, or even your parents. Talk through your issues and pray with them about your struggle. They can give you insight into how they have worked through their own struggles. Believe it or not, other people have been through this, and came out!!

Colossians 3:16 – “Let the message about Christ completely fill your lives, while you use all your wisdom to teach and instruct each other. With thankful hearts, sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs to God. ”

-Pastor Rob.

Why Great Ministry Leaders Need a Coach

Three reasons why ministry leaders need a coach and why coaching works.

Moses was a mess. He worked 10 to 12 hours a day. The people he led were frustrated. He teetered on the edge of burnout with no relief in sight. He felt separated and estranged from his wife and kids. He did not invest time in developing his skills — he rushed from task to task.
Sound familiar?
In my service to ministry leaders over the last decade, the No. 1 challenge they face is “getting it all done and keeping it all together.” Ministry leaders wear many hats — preach, lead teams, provide pastoral care, raise money, plan, relate to deacons, and deal with crises. By many people’s definition, ministry is one of the most demanding jobs on the planet.
With the task of “trying to get it all done,” ministry leaders often struggle to keep their lives together. They struggle with maintaining health and intimacy in their marriage and connecting with their children. They are overworked and undernourished.
While we are running the race to get everything done, we also miss opportunities to advance our skills, disciplines, and knowledge. We fail to expand our potential and, as a result, cap our growth.
This is where coaching can help. A coach will ensure you extract the mediocrity from your life and move toward greater excellence. A coach brings many benefits you cannot provide on your own. A coach can increase your courage to confront the areas of your life that need change — then help you change.
By taking a closer look at Moses and Jethro in Exodus 18, we can learn from their coaching experience. Ask yourself:

• How I can change my approach to ministry to lighten my load and increase my effectiveness?
• What action steps can I take to move away from mediocrity to greater excellence?

Moses had a mission from God to manage the Israelites, and it was a demanding job. People were complaining about their neighbors, living conditions, questions of the future, problems at home, at work — and on and on.
Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, had insight that could greatly benefit Moses. This is the first reason why pastors need a coach and why coaching works.

Coaching Provides Outside Insight

Coaches can see what you cannot see. They have the power of observation working for them and you. As a coach observes your behavior and asks clarifying questions, solutions emerge. A coach sees ways to improve your performance and advance your skills and disciplines. A coach adds depth and greater discernment to decisions.
When you have a coach, you have an informed advocate investing experience and expertise in helping you think and act more effectively.
Imagine how empowering it would be to have a coach? You have someone who:

• understands ministry and its challenges.
• provides a safe place where you can discover solutions.
• provides accountability to help you grow your character and righteousness as well as implement your goals.
• brings fresh perspectives to expand your thinking.
• challenges your thinking to arrive at better decisions.

Jethro cared about his son-in-law, daughter, grand kids, and his people. He came to Moses not only to reunite his family but also improve his leadership. He came as a trusted adviser to help.
This is the second value of coaching and why it is so effective.

Coaching Provides a Trusted Adviser

Good coaches are trusted advisers who understand your background, behavior style, challenges, and opportunities. They get to know you, your family, your team, and your culture, so they can give you maximum value in the coaching relationship.
Jethro was a trusted adviser who displayed self-control and maturity in responding to his son-in-law. Perhaps Jethro was concerned that Moses might be neglecting his wife, kids, and his own emotional and spiritual health because he was so busy with his work. Jethro looked to see how Moses could change, improve his situation, and emerge a better husband, father, and leader.
Jethro did what good coaches do: He observed Moses in his active leadership role. The next day as Jethro observed Moses, he saw that Moses had not developed a team to help him carry the load.

The confrontation

“The next day Moses took his seat to serve as judge for the people, and they stood around him from morning till evening. When his father–in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he said, ‘What is this you are doing for the people? Why do you alone sit as judge, while all these people stand around you from morning till evening?’ ” (Exodus 18:13,14, italics mine). (These are great coaching questions.)
“Moses answered him, ‘Because the people come to me to seek God’s will’ ” (verse 15). (Really?)
“Moses’ father–in-law replied, ‘What you are doing is not good. (We need this honest feedback) You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone’ ” (verses 17,18). (Can you take this counsel?)
Jethro was bold and helped bring about a dynamic change in Moses’ leadership style. But he did not just confront, he did what great coaches do — he asked powerful questions that provided a practical path for Moses to resolve his problem.
This is coaching’s greatest benefit — helping the person being coached arrive at their own sound solution.

Coaching Produces Sound Solutions

Moses was a great leader, but he needed to change his approach. He needed the outside influence of a trusted advisor to help him see how to do things differently to get better results. Jethro gently guided Moses to a practical solution that resulted in change and advancement in his leadership style, family, and the people he led.
Fortunately for Moses, he welcomed the help of Jethro. He trusted his father-in-law. A coaching relationship based on trust provides freedom to explore thinking, evaluate situations, and strategize solutions.
People who utilize a coach say trust is what they appreciate about coaching. Coaching provides a consistent, safe environment that lets them explore possibilities with someone outside the context and challenges of their corporate culture.
Great leaders need a coach because they want:

• to achieve their calling.
• to advance their skills, disciplines, and knowledge.
• to remove inefficient or ineffective habits or practices that are undermining their leadership.
• to become people who enjoy life and loved ones.
• to know they are doing all they can to be the best they can.
• outside insight and an experienced, trusted adviser who can strategize with them so they can excel.

No matter what level of leader you are today, consider advancing your excellence. Here is an action plan:

Action plan

 Answer the following questions:

• How do I want to grow in my personal life?
• How do I want to grow in my leadership?
• What are my goals for the year?
• How does my team need to change to maximize our efforts?
• What obstacles are blocking my growth?

Final Thought

Ministry leaders focus on serving the people around them– which is their calling. But who’s focused on serving ministry leaders? Who’s caring for your soul and success in life? This is why coaching is so critical. A coach equips you to experience greater spiritual vitality and leadership success. So get a coach!

Excerpts taken from an article written by Greg Salciccioli

Happy Leap Day!!!

Today is a free day! It’s a bonus, a perk, an extra opportunity to live in a moment of time and space that won’t show up again for four more years. Okay, it’s really just February 29th…and it’s not much different than yesterday. But since today won’t happen again for a long time we are going to give you a little challenge for today. Actually it’s several challenges, that when tallied together, will totally 29….in honor of today.
Do 3 Random Acts of Kindness Today: 
 ~Buy a stranger a cup of coffee, offer to empty the trash in a co-workers office, point out the fact that your boss’ toupee looks exceptionally realistic.
Call 5 Folks Who Haven’t Heard From You In A While:  
~Call one of your parents, call an old friend from college, or call somebody whose birthday popped up on Facebook.
Pray For 10 People By Name:  
~It doesn’t need to be a long prayer, but mention 10 folks specifically in your quiet time today.
Make A List Of 7 Things You Love About Your Spouse:       
~Don’t read them to him or her, instead put them in your bible or journal and refer to the list the next time you are tempted to nit-pick about something dumb.
Meditate On Your 4 Favorite Bible Verses: 
~These are your favorites for a reason. Spend some time reminding yourself why.
Happy a great February 29th!

Awesome article by Rick Warren.

Rick Warren: Dealing with Difficult People

When asked what he considered the most valuable skill in employees, John D. Rockefeller once replied, "The ability to get along with people!"
One of the most important skills needed to succeed in ministry is knowing how to handle troublemakers. If you learn how to deal with difficult people early on, then you'll be able to pour more energy into ministry rather than needless conflicts.


Troublemakers come in all shapes:
THE SHERMAN TANK - will run over you if you let him.
THE MEGAPHONE - will talk your ear off.
THE BUBBLE BUSTER -deflates everyone's enthusiasm.
THE VOLCANO - has a temper like Mt. St. Helens.
THE CRY BABY - is a chronic complainer.
THE NIT PICKER - is the unpleasable perfectionist.
THE SPACE CADET - is on a different wavelength.


What should you do with these types?
Jesus had to deal with a lot of difficult people. Here are FOUR methods he modeled through his life:
1. Realize you can't please everybody (John 5:30). Even God can't do that! One wants rain while the other demands sunshine.
2. Refuse to play their game (Matt. 22:18). Learn to say no to unrealistic expectations. Confront them by "telling the truth in love."
3. Never retaliate (Matt. 5:38-39). It only lowers you to their level.
4. Pray for them (Matt. 5:44). It will help both of you. Let God handle them.
Make this Bible verse your goal this week, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." (Rom. 12:18 NIV)
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Rick Warren is the founding pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif. In addition, Rick is author of the New York Times bestseller The Purpose-Driven Life and The Purpose-Driven Church, which was named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He is also founder of Pastors.com, a global Internet community for ministers. Copyright 2005 Pastors.com, Inc. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

Through My Eyes By Tim Tebow

  Since I first started playing high school football, a lot has been written about me. Some true, some not so true. Some positive, some not so positive. And some of it claiming to even know my mind-set and motivation.


It's not always the easiest thing to be the center of so much spilled ink. You read glowing things, and it doesn't feel deserved. You read things that are critical, and it cuts you to the bone. It's because of both those extremes of others' opinions that I felt it the natural thing to do to tell my story, written from my perspective. It also seemed like the right thing to do—perhaps in many instances to simply set the record straight—sharing my story as I see it, as I remember it, including my actual mind-set and motivation. Sharing it all—what is true and actually happened. Some of it positive, and some perhaps, still, not so positive. That's the nature of truth. But all of it is my story.

Through my eyes.

  In addition, the sheer amount that has been written about me also seems to indicate that, for whatever reason, a great number of people have a significant interest in me. In some respects that is very flattering. I'd guess that any one of us would be flattered by that level of interest. However, my parents always told me, from an early age, that we all have the ability to influence others, whether through our words or actions, or both. They always added that, besides possessing the ability, we also have the responsibility to use it in a positive, encouraging, and uplifting way—a platform. Who knows? Maybe my platform will be the same in five years; maybe not. One thing I'm confident of is that the Lord already knows the answer to that, and He has a plan for it all. That is something I've learned to have the utmost assurance of and faith in—His daily, weekly, monthly, total and eternal plan for our lives.

Therefore I have learned that, though God is in control of the big picture, I am responsible for how I use my platform, whatever its size—at this moment in time—to influence others. Or whatever my age. Or wherever I am, or no matter what is going on in my life at any time. I have a platform that He can use for His good purposes and perhaps even the good of others—today.

We all know of people who thought they could do it (whatever "it" is) tomorrow. We have all procrastinated in such a way, and often to our personal regret. It happens time and again, putting off things that we convince ourselves might be better, more meaningful, more appropriate for another time. So often that better time either never comes or really isn't better or more appropriate after all. And then, sadly, the window of opportunity—to do something great—closes. Here's something else that I haven't always grasped but which in the last few years I have come to understand in my own life, and which now burns in my heart for others to also recognize and realize: we all have stories to share. We all have life experiences that can bless the lives of others. Whoever we are. Wherever we find ourselves. Whatever we are involved in, no matter our age or station in life. Stories that, when shared with others, can make a positive difference in the world.

As I tell my story, I hope that you will see that its true focus is on God and on those eternal values that He holds before us as beacons and benchmarks, to help us live lives of abundance that will ultimately glorify Him, while also lifting and bettering the lives of His children everywhere.

What it all boils down to is that if there's one kid who keeps pushing to attain his dreams, or...
if there's one dad who accepts the saving grace of Christ and changes his whole family, or...
if there's one person who sees my mistakes, realizes that we all fall short, and keeps pressing on, or...
if there's someone who agrees that Christians don't have to be weak, either in mind, body, or soul, then undertaking this project was the right thing to do, regardless of what the world thinks is the "right time" to write a memoir.

  God challenges us to change the world. And to accomplish this, He asks us to change it one life at a time.

I appreciate that you are taking this journey alongside me, and I pray that as we take this journey together, you will feel the Lord's presence along the way and that you will let Him cover you with His grace and power.

I also pray that in this journey you and I may discover that not only our lives but the lives of others are better because they were touched by something we have shared together.

Through my eyes.

Excerpted from Through My Eyes by Tim Tebow, with Nathan Whitaker. Copyright © 2011 by Timothy R. Tebow. Used with permission of HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers.